Everyone's inheritance: the ideal role model for society

 

Although perfection is a concept aspired from a distance, at times, we can understand how passed generations succeeded by prizing the efforts to aim for future generation's improvement, in all cultures throughout history.

 

Throughout life, we endure dependent on our mind's ability, graced by our amazing ancestors.   Our epigenetic origins offer libraries of information within DNA. Gratitude to our past, we've survived and thrived towards a prospective future through conditioned strength.  Although, the diverse results of cultural trauma compliments, the black swan effect, the massive differences and challenges throughout generations remain resistant patterns within the reactions of our survivor genetic code. 

 

In duress, we tend to seek coping methods conflicting the integrity of our optimal health. Unfortunately, the intensity of stress endured blinds perspectives, in turn devaluing the importance of responsible decision making. Passed studies have statistically shown within a family of three offspring, where one parent smokes cigarettes, at least one of the offspring will also smoke cigarettes. 

Growing up, in a household of three siblings, I was that frayed smoker.  Despite my focus on healthy food consumption, regular exercise, for years the weakness of a toxic habit proved addictive in my life. A toxic addiction can be conquered. I finally accepted the necessity for change, aiding perspective, and stopped smoking cigarettes, nearly a decade now.  This is an example of one form of addiction that can be controlled. Another is abusive over-indulgence in consumption of unhealthy processed foods. Obesity can also be remedied rather easily, when the person suffering from this addiction finally decides to prioritise self-love.

 

Hypnosis has been proven beneficial, in eliminating self-destructive tendencies that result to poor health throughout progressed stages of development. In mild cases, even self-hypnosis aided through motivation of the self, accepting the issue and striving with intention to overcome the displeasing behaviour--in unison with commitment to the decision for improvement is established.  Yet not every issue can be resolved so easily. Unresolved early traumatic events that remained overlooked, rendering extended issues later on in life, need not be obstacles to suffering unnecessary pain. 

 

Although modern advancements have stifled the effects of aging, as human beings, regardless of denial, we cannot avoid our bodies' developmental stages, thus the difficult discussion directed to geriatric progression deems subject matter most unpleasant in social gatherings. It's a subject of great weight, funnelled depth, and unavoidable sorry, as it affects each and every person who treasures loved ones and the self. It is a subject that cannot be ignored or reserved selfishly disguised for pride's defense. It's avoiding the massive elephant living in the room, despite the rate of technological advancements.   Discussions for plans of action are required at all levels, especially personal, as social beings we are, and society plays an affecting role on our quality of life. The better youth understand the quality of human life at the most mature stages, the greater the chances of focusing attentions to aid their lifestyle for the future state of society... if not for their children, for love itself. 

 

The role of parenthood and caregivers alike, reflect the lifestyle change of responsibility beyond the self. Regardless of the relevant level of action, everything expressed and executed effects the child or person receiving care, as relevant as the developmental stage of the one receiving the overlooked care. From the manner of communication, words expressed, body language, and responses to stress, responsibility demands the position of role model... Not merely in our small domestic circles but also in society, as everything effects our treasured loved ones... the precious younger generations that need more than demanding commands or strict directions.

In other words, you smoke, the chances of your child smoking are 3:1, raising the bar of lung cancer and related diseases of the body's circulatory system--not excluding relevant diseases within the bloodstream caused by the example's toxic ingestion.

You verbally express yourself tactlessly due to uncontrolled regressed emotions during stressful times, the chances your child will be conflicted learning what self-respect really means may be high, resulting in unforeseen self-abusive behaviour.

 

Consider the position of role model, without depriving yourself of the care needed. Stop the cycle of toxicity, whatever the addition or degrading behaviour is (in word and in deed), consider how this affects the ones worth loving, the innocence, including yourself. Yes, yourself... That neglected insatiable inner child that cannot seem to be satisfied without continuously 'wanting'. 

 

How? First, rejection fortifies 'denial' and denial is progress's number one enemy. The human condition composes of denied effected frailties, suppressed within the subconscious. Through the course of a lifetime, adverse developmental events from early childhood development affect our reaction and decisions, and, when left unrecognised continue to do so repeating in cycles through adult development.   These unhealthy patterns are witnessed by developing generations, potentially causing confusion with lack of clarity.

These overlooked intense emotional experiences must be identified by acknowledging the fact that 'there is cause' to the recognised problem. This requires attention to overlooked details, suppressed, denied, or dismissed as irrelevant through underestimation.

Keep in mind, that our selected company most likely display a similar level of denial, thus are not the best sources for advice. Our insecurities at times function as defence mechanisms that shelter the subconscious from difficult emotions to face; thus, our closest social company are subconsciously chosen to maintain a degree of those insecurities... Don't shoot the messenger; that's just stating the facts ... and, 'no', I'm not advising for you to dump your friends. 

 

Throughout every generation, we are raised to excuse our obstruction to personal progress as acceptable flaws, without considering how developing generations register these messages into their decision making.

Some common overlooked accepted sayings that welcome denial: "It's only human to make mistakes" or " We're human--we're bound to make mistakes" or "If it was good enough for me growing up, it's good enough for my children".

Common reactions to difficulty accepting an issue, excuse necessary efforts as 'the human condition'. Yes, mistakes are made, but how often do we dismiss and disassociate from the learning process of the results of our mistakes, when regarding the potential effects of future generations?

If cradling past unacknowledged wounds and boosting a bombarded ego bares ground for immediate dismissal and easy forgiveness, future generations are learning how to avoid internal issues without facing the work needed for humbly understanding the cause. That's not a preferred definition of inheritance to offer to children of any generation.  Trauma is a chain that can be broken.   

 

Unless we understand 'how' the problem occurred, we can't remedy it--with the human mind it's not "here's the problem, now fix it". Events effect chain reactions of unacknowledged emotions that remained neglected for significant durations.

Every generation fights their own difficulty, with this inheritance of former generations on suppressed traumatic experiences ...

 

Future generations have a damaged planet to heal, let's be more considerate to their battle and do the internal work to assure they are at an optimal stance to progress. Emotional work isn't easy but the results of each reward, offering a better future with less potential inherited mistakes for future generations to clean up, one person at a time, can massively improve relationships and well-being. 

 

A couple of days ago, I heard a man regard his 'children' in an unbelievable manner. Despite the fact his children or grandchildren were not present, the mannerism regarded another generation's emotional unsettled trauma. (The observation expressed, here, takes relevance to 'what caused this form of manner expressed, because the issue is not the level of love.)

How crass does an adult 'human being' sound when they regard their children as pets; how can such a 'human being' metaphorically set their child or grandchild at the same priority level as "dogs and cats"? Love maybe blind, but let's face it, we don't drive our 'dogs' to school nor sacrifice endless efforts in life to ensure our 'cats' have a decent start in life.

 

After all, the conscious decision to create life is an act of the highest affection, not a settlement of circumstances that appeal to selfish ulterior motives nor social acceptance. Prospective parents must prepare physically and mentally for the permanent lifestyle change, because the creation of life is the demanding responsibility that includes consideration of another entire future generation's condition that the created life will thrive in.

We can create a healthy chain of passed emotional experiences for our youth today, that can benefit their children and strive to stop the epigenetic chain of trauma.

 

What relevance to overlooked mannerism, do you consider, our children to reflect upon through their development with their piers or in solitude?

Do you want to be 'that parent' that regards their child as a four-legged dependent creature, oblivious to how that child will subconsciously be affected throughout a lifetime?

Do want your child to dismiss such behaviour without acknowledging it, so that your future grandchildren have to endure it--or do you prefer to view your child fearlessly facing internal conflicts within a positive progressed generation? 

 

Gratitude for your presence.

 

Humbly,

Chariklia Oikonomopoulou 

 

 

 

 

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